3 weeks ago
Wives Reveal 11 Questions They Hate Hearing From Husbands
A reporter named Divya Nair asked married women in India what questions from their husbands really bother them.
The women shared lots of examples.
Some husbands ask what's for dinner even when their wives are tired and just want to rest.
Some tell their wives to lose weight or join a gym, and that makes the wives feel hurt and upset.
Others ask why their wives watch certain TV shows or why they keep buying new clothes.
Many women said husbands compare their cooking to their own mothers' cooking, which feels unfair.
Some husbands ask their wives to find lost socks, keys, or earphones instead of looking themselves.
Others ask why their wives are angry all the time, instead of trying to understand the reason.
There are also questions like 'what did you do all day?'
and 'can we talk about this later?'
The article is a fun, honest look at how husbands and wives sometimes talk past each other, and readers can vote on which question bothers them most.
Rediff journalist Divya Nair interviewed married women across India about the questions husbands ask that wives find most annoying.
The list of 11 questions includes what is being cooked next, 'can you try losing some weight?', and 'how many more clothes will you buy?'
Respondents said weight-related comments, even when made out of concern, damage wives' self-esteem and ignore women's hormones and changing bodies.
Wives also take issue with being compared to mothers-in-law on cooking, being asked to track misplaced items, and being asked what they did all day.
All interviewee names were changed to protect privacy, and the article invites readers to vote on which question annoys them most.
- Who
- Married women across India interviewed by Rediff journalist Divya Nair.
- What
- Wives shared the 11 questions their husbands ask that they find most annoying, from meal-planning queries to weight comments and shopping questions.
- Where
- India.
- When
- Not specified in the articles.
- Why
- To highlight everyday remarks that wives find insensitive and to spark discussion, with a reader poll asking which question annoys women most.
Wives' Perspective
Husbands' Perspective
Weight and fitness comments
Wives' Perspective
Even well-intentioned advice to lose weight or join a gym damages wives' self-esteem and ignores women's hormones and changing bodies.
Husbands' Perspective
Husbands may give weight and fitness advice out of genuine concern, believing their wives have become lazy and are ignoring their health.
Cooking compared to mothers
Wives' Perspective
Wives say they are not photocopies of their husbands' mothers; a wife and a mother are two different people, so comparing cooking is unfair.
Husbands' Perspective
Husbands compare their wives' cooking to their mothers' and expect wives to learn to cook from their mothers-in-law.
Timing of difficult conversations
Wives' Perspective
Wives want difficult talks about parents, money, or conflicts resolved, saying there is no perfect time to have them.
Husbands' Perspective
Husbands repeatedly suggest postponing uncomfortable discussions for another day.
Key facts
- Publication
- Rediff
- Author
- Divya Nair
- Number of questions
- 11
- Respondents
- Married women across India; names changed to protect privacy
- TV shows mentioned
- Bigg Boss, Khatron Ke Khiladi, Splitsvilla
- Actors cited
- Urvashi Dholakia (Komolika), Sudha Chandran (Ramola)
- Representational image
- Scene from the film 'Mrs'
- Reader engagement
- Poll asking which question annoys readers most
Quotes
Vinita
Bank employee working woman
“'What are you cooking for breakfast/lunch/dinner?'”
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“'We can talk about this later.'”
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