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Adult Children Moving Home: Strategies for Making it Work
Lots of grown-up kids are moving back home with their parents because it's super expensive to live on their own right now.
It's like when you share your toys, but with grown-up money stuff.
To make it work, everyone needs to talk a lot.
Kids should have a plan, like saving for their own place, and know when they'll move out.
Parents need to set rules, like maybe the kids help with chores instead of paying rent.
It's important for kids to learn to be good with money, and for parents not to spend all their own savings.
Talking and making clear rules helps everyone get along and be happy.
Rising inflation and housing costs are causing more adult children to move back home with their parents.
A significant percentage of parents report increased difficulty saving for retirement and paying off debt due to adult children living with them.
Financial experts recommend establishing clear financial goals, communication, and boundaries for adult children living at home.
Contribution methods can include rent or home labor, and clear timelines for financial independence should be set.
Parents are advised to prioritize their own financial health, including retirement savings, and to be transparent about their financial limitations.
- Who
- Adult children and their parents.
- What
- Adult children are moving back in with their parents at higher rates due to economic pressures.
- Where
- Homes across the country, impacting parent-child financial dynamics.
- When
- Recent times, with the trend increasing due to inflation and high housing costs.
- Why
- Inflation and high housing costs are making it difficult for adult children to afford independent living.
Children's Perspective
Parents' Perspective
Financial Independence
Children's Perspective
Children should have clear goals for saving, finding a new job, or renting a place to achieve financial independence and a planned move-out date.
Parents' Perspective
Parents aim to help their children achieve financial independence, but also need to protect their own financial future, such as retirement savings.
Financial Contribution
Children's Perspective
Children may contribute through rent or home labor (shopping, cleaning, yardwork) as agreed upon.
Parents' Perspective
Parents set rules for financial contributions, including rent, and may consider financial support as an advance against an estate.
Boundaries and Expectations
Children's Perspective
Children need to understand and adhere to financial boundaries and timelines set by parents.
Parents' Perspective
Parents need to establish clear guidelines, communicate regularly, and stick to them to avoid friction and financial dependence.
Key facts
- Survey Finding (Thrivent)
- 46% of parents have had adult children live with them.
- Parental Savings Impact
- Over a third of parents find it harder to save for long-term goals like retirement.
- Debt Struggle Increase
- 38% of parents struggle with debt, up from 23% the previous year.
- Key to Success
- Clear goals, regular communication, and established boundaries.
- Financial Contribution Methods
- Rent payments or home labor (shopping, cleaning, yardwork).
- Parents' Financial Priority
- Protecting retirement savings and personal financial needs.
Quotes
Lili Vasileff
president of Connecticut-based Wealth Protection Management
“Parents can figure out if the advance is to be recouped, if it’s to come out of the estate or if it’s to be forgiven. All these conversations are important.”
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“What becomes an issue often is not so much the money as it is the discipline.”
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Bobbi Rebell
financial planner and financial expert at consumer site CardRates
“Being somewhat self-sufficient, even if living at home, can give a young adult confidence in their ability to be a financial grown-up and move toward more independence.”
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“Think of it this way: Would you ever want to ask your kids for money as you age because you depleted your retirement money helping them? That’s not good.”
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Lauren Lindsay
financial advisor at Tennessee-based wealth management firm Paragon
“Realistically, parents decide to put their own relationship to the test. Open and regular conversations are paramount to protect the child as well as the couple.”
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“In my experience the free ride never ends.”
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Dustin Smith
financial advisor at Minnesota-based company Wealth Enhancement
“Every situation is different, and these things rarely go as expected, but setting appropriate guidelines and sticking to them as much as you can can really help reach the ideal result for everyone involved.”
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