Archive · 26 Oct 2025
Father's Reflections on Raising Twins and Avoiding Comparisons
This is a story about a dad raising twin boys who were born early.
At first, the dad found himself comparing his sons to each other, feeling pressure to follow parenting advice and societal expectations.
He realized this wasn't fair to the boys.
He changed his perspective with help from his wife, blunt advice from doctors, and the boys' own unique personalities.
He learned to celebrate their differences and not compare their progress.
Now, he focuses on teaching them that their achievements are their own.
The author's twin sons were born prematurely.
The author initially found himself comparing his twins.
He felt pressure from parenting advice and societal expectations.
The author's wife, blunt pediatricians, and the boys themselves helped him change his perspective.
He learned to celebrate the boys' individual differences and avoid comparisons.
- Who
- A father of twins
- What
- Reflections on raising twins and avoiding comparisons
- When
- A year after the twins were born prematurely
- Where
- India
- Why
- To share lessons learned about avoiding parental comparisons and celebrating individual differences
- Premature Birth Weights
- 1,294 and 1,385 grams
- Boys' Birth Date
- December 14 last year
- Older Twin's Name
- Vir
- Younger Twin's Name
- Kabir