Archive · 6 Nov 2025
AI Chatbots May Normalize Rudeness, Prompting Concerns About Human Interaction
Imagine you're talking to a helpful computer program, like a chatbot.
Some people say you don't need to say 'please' or 'thank you' to these computers because they don't have feelings.
They think it's faster to just tell them what to do.
But the writer of this story worries that if we get used to being less polite to computers, we might start being less polite to each other too.
They even saw a robot walking around a restaurant!
The writer also heard about a story written by a computer that won a prize, which made them sad because they love human creativity.
Later, a musician reminded everyone that simple polite words like 'excuse me' are very important for getting along.
The writer hopes that maybe we can teach computers to be polite, so we don't forget how to be polite ourselves.
Advice given to the author suggested being impolite to AI chatbots to save 'energy and resources'.
Concerns are raised that normalizing impolite interactions with AI could lead to a decline in human politeness.
A humanoid robot was observed moving within a pizzeria, representing a visible presence of advanced technology.
The author experienced a creative work judged as potentially AI-assisted, sparking reflection on human vs. AI creativity.
A musician emphasized the importance of basic courteous phrases for human interaction and travel.
- Who
- The author and their colleagues, and a musician
- What
- Discusses the potential for AI chatbots and robots to normalize rudeness and impact human interaction, contrasting AI interactions with traditional human courtesies.
- When
- Recently, over a few days, culminating in the author's observations after dinner.
- Where
- New York City, including a pizzeria and a music club in Greenwich Village, and during subway travel.
- Why
- Concerns arise from advice on interacting with AI (e.g., 'don't be polite,' 'yell at it') potentially eroding habits of politeness essential for human relationships.
AI Encourages Rudeness
AI Can Be Taught Courtesies
Direct Interaction with AI
AI Encourages Rudeness
Being told to be direct and not polite with AI chatbots, as politeness wastes their 'energy and resources', could lead people to use less polite language with others.
AI Can Be Taught Courtesies
The author suggests that as AI improves, it could be taught to insist on being treated with basic courtesies, rather than people discarding them.
Impact on Human Communication
AI Encourages Rudeness
If using AI becomes second nature, it might weaken the essential small courtesies that are vital for human relationships and normalize aggression, as seen with AI tutors suggesting 'yelling' at chatbots.
AI Can Be Taught Courtesies
The author concludes with a cautiously optimistic view that human interaction, like the musician's lesson on polite travel phrases, demonstrates the enduring value of courtesies, implying AI could integrate this.
Creativity and AI
AI Encourages Rudeness
The discovery that a prize-winning story was AI-assisted is seen as depressing, potentially diminishing the celebration of human creative genius and leaving less for humans to celebrate in the arts.
AI Can Be Taught Courtesies
The author acknowledges that AI can help the creative process, which could be a reason for optimism, but ultimately finds it 'depressing' in the context of celebrating human artistic achievement.
- AI Tool Mentioned
- ChatGPT
- Example of AI Interaction
- Tutor advising to delete 'please' and use 'DO BETTER. YOU CAN DO A LOT BETTER.' with ChatGPT.
- Observation of Future Tech
- Humanoid robot seen at Arturo's Coal Oven Pizza in Greenwich Village.
- AI in Creative Arts
- A story judged for a literary journal was suspected to be AI-assisted.
- Lesson on Politeness
- Musician Xavier Cardriche taught audience essential polite travel words: 'please,' 'thank you,' and 'excuse me.'